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Hi, my name’s Andy Aitch, the webmaster behind this exciting project. Thanks for visiting the site. is continually being updated with topical content written by middle-aged men, for men of middle age. If you’re male and over 40, then congratulations, you’re in the right place.

A man’s mid-life transition often brings an increase in the following areas pf concern:

  • Visible signs of aging (namely sagging skin, greying, and hair loss)
  • Health issues associated with ageing
  • Fear of financial uncertainty
  • Failed relationships (to include being alone)
  • Losing one’s identity/usefulness with age

Sometimes, men fear a humdrum lifestyle with more monotony than variety to look forward to in the years ahead. However middle age treats a man, there is always opportunity to make life better by developing some simple mindset adjustments towards attitude and outlook on life.

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” ~ Wayne Dyer

If you can relate to any of the above, then you’re definitely in the right place. Welcome to, a project inspired by the over 40s, for men of middle age everywhere.


Poll: How is Middle-age treating you?

Not all Men suffer a Mid-life Crisis

Few many men in their 40s & 50s would confess to symptoms of a midlife-crisis. Less likely is a ‘manly man’ admitting to the world that he’s experiencing the male menopause (aka andro-pause), but it’s occurring nonetheless!

Not every middle aged man goes through a ‘silly period’ during this stage of his natural development. But every man, no matter who he is, or where he comes from, WILL face some unfamiliar challenges during his middle years.

It is the sole purpose of to discuss men’s issues, look at solutions to problems, and to share tips and ideas on how to live a fulfilling life during those middle years.



“You die if you worry and you die if you don’t. So why worry?” (Easier said than done, right?)

Health Symbol1. Health: Middle-age health concerns can become quite bothersome for a lot of men as they grow older, particularly the thought of cancer, heart attack and stroke. The suggestion of men over 50 getting that ‘finger up the bum’ prostate exam once a year is enough to have any mid-lifer running for them there hills.

Another health concern is that of middle-age spread. With it comes a whole range of potential health complications that occur directly from being an overweight man in midlife transition.

“He who has health, has hope; and he who has hope, has everything”. ~ Thomas Carlyle

Money Symbol2. Finance: Fears of financial insecurity can trigger a lot of anxiety in middle age, especially long term concerns. There’s also that dark cloud of job uncertainty forever hovering above the heads of men. Additionally, the rising cost of living hinders man’s attempts to save for his future financial comfort.

Throughout life, money comes and money goes, but by the time a man reaches his 50’s, it becomes ever more important to get his finances into some kind of order.

“Money is not the only answer, but it makes a difference”. ~ Barack Obama

Family Symbol Relationships3. Relationships: The threat of erectile dysfunction (ED) is a concern for many a man in the throes of midlife. The flip side of this is when middle aged men are still full of testosterone and sexual desire but no longer have the opportunity to satisfy these needs (see below).

Commitment, generosity, and a listening ear are vital to the health of any mid-life relationship. Nevertheless, these things alone are not always enough. If sexual fulfilment is wanted by the man but rejected by the woman, this can place immense stress on any relationship, particularly for those men entering into the early years of middle age.

“People change and forget to tell each other”. ~ Lillian Hellman

But relationships are not restricted to love and love making. How we get along with people in general is fundamental to being happy and fulfilled as people.

“The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.” ~ Anthony Robbins

Lifestyle Choice. Born again Biker4. Lifestyle: According to psychotherapists, a man undergoing transition into middle age tends to spend quite a bit of time reflecting on his past. This self-probing often begins by looking at the lifestyle choices he has made. All too frequently, this experience does not prove to be a positive one.

‘Look at life through the windshield, not the rear-view mirror’. ~ Byrd Baggett

When a middle-aged man starts to believe he’s accomplished very little, or not as much as he could have done, both within his personal and professional life, there comes a real risk for depression. When allowed to fester, depression is debilitating, constraining, and obstructs any hope of contentment for the one who suffers.

‘A man is not old until his dreams become his regrets’. ~ English Proverb

The above proverb tells us that any maturing male still has unlimited opportunities before him providing he’s physically and mentally able, and willing to take up new challenges.


Midlife Changes in Attitude and Outlook are Normal

As we men grow older, changes are both natural and inevitable. The transformations that occur at midlife don’t have to be negative nor contain fear, anxiety, and pessimistic uncertainty about the future. They often do, but the really don’t have to.

Midlife transitions do not have to result in male midlife crises. By developing, or maintaining a positive mind-set, there will be great times ahead for any man who strives for them.

“Aging seems to be the only available way to live a long life.” ~ Daniel Francois Esprit Auber

If you’ve read down this far, you’ll now realise that there is more to getting older than just that of a physical nature. Psychological and spiritual changes take place too as men evolve from their relative youthfulness into a period of mid-life adjustment.

“The best is yet to come.’ ~ William Shakespeare

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It is the sole purpose of this website to help make these middle years a time of fulfilment, self discovery, and camaraderie as we join together and work towards a period in our lives that will be constructive, happy, and as free from strife as possible.

If it is to be, it is up to me!

By accepting those things in life that we cannot change, like growing older, greyer, fatter, and looser, can we then focus on those things we can do something about, such as an insistence on living life to our full potential.

Scientific studies have shown time and time again that physical and mental deterioration within middle-aged men can be slowed down considerably simply by embracing a healthier, happier lifestyle, and what man wouldn’t want a slice of that cake?

Come join us, welcome your middle age and march forward with your fellow mid-lifers. Let us strive to get the best out of living life to the max as contented and confident middle-aged men.

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Please join the conversations in the all new 50ish community forum. We’d love to meet you.

Thanks for reading introduction and I hope to get to know some of you as the site develops.

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Musician, writer, netentrepreneur and founder of, the site created for uniting middle-aged men the world over.

Andy’s motto: a man is not old until his dreams become his regrets

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Readers Comments

    Joseph Dabon says:

    I hope I am not disqualified from this group. I am a retired engineer, 67 yrs old, a widower and I have experienced a lot from my middle age up until now.

    I accidentally found this site while surfing for topics to write about in my blog. And I like it. It’s like seeing a clean face after going through muck (that’s an exaggeration, of course). At any rate, I hope to read more of your posts.

    Pia says:

    Hi ya’ll, thought I’d share a poem soon to be included in an upcoming ebook. I am a woman but feel this is appropriate for both our genders. Hope you all like it.

    Midlife Crisis

    Infinite sadness
    for I have come through space and time
    to find you here waiting for me.

    I’m afraid the best has been lost along the way,
    spent in ignorance and the effort to find you.
    I’ve been finding my way through
    this maze called life.
    Just when my hope was gone
    there you were,

    and here I stand with nothing much to offer,
    not even my youth.
    It’s been supplanted by the years.

    I’m sorry because you deserve the best.
    When I look in the mirror I see the tolls taken,
    the sacrifice and life’s hands upon me.
    I’m too aware of time’s passing.

    I search the mirror to try to see what you see in me
    but all I see is a blank stare, uncertainty and fear.

    Through some awesome magic, all your own,
    you have with your wonderful hands stopped both
    time and reality.

    I am transformed by the warmth of your love
    into something young and beautiful,
    unfolding as a flower beneath your hand.
    Breathe in the fragrance
    for what is there
    is of your own making.

    VM says:

    I came across this website hoping to read about 50ish comments by men for men. I found a man who I simply adore and want to know more about what his needs may be at this age….I’m only 8yrs younger. Sexually I am hoping he is still interested. Spiritually, we will both be on the same page if it is meant to be. He works a lot, and my fear is that he will have little time for me, but that probably would change with time. I’m more interested in his psychological outlook. He was widowed early on and hasn’t remarried. His last child has just married, so he in essence is now alone. I still have two at home, one ready for college or hopefully marriage the other still has a decade with me till adulthood. He gives me hints that there is interest, but we haven’t went past handshakes and hellos, and brief conversations. He seems very complicated because he is a true gentleman and spiritually refined. I love it!

      Andy Aitch says:

      As the Rolling Stones once put it: “You Can’t Always Get What You Want’, but that doesn’t mean we should stop dreaming 😉 Good luck with your search VM, though you might do better posting your message in the 50ish Mid-life RELATIONSHIPS Forum. After all, you never know who might be reading 😉


    Perky says:

    Like the site, thank you. Please, more articles on health and fitness for older men? Thanks.

      Andy Aitch says:

      Hi Perky and thanks for your comments.

      We’re still quite a new project in web terms, and new content is being added regularly in all our categories. Please check back often for updates, or better still sign up for site updates. That way, you’ll be informed via email each time a new article is published.

      You can subscribe to our free site Updates here.

      Andy Aitch (webmaster)

    Salt says:

    Hi. I never knew you had a website as well. I thought you had the forum. It was only when i clicked the logo at the top of the forum that i found the website. It looks like a really nice blog so you might want to make it a bit more obvious in the forum? Thanks. Salty

    Bill says:

    Just stopped by to say I luv the site man. My wife thinks I dress like a scarecrow and she’s most likely right. So would be great to see some articles on middle-aged fashion for us frumpy guys. Thank you very much. Big Bill.

      AndyPandy says:

      I could write plenty of articles on how to dress like a scarecrow Bill LOL.

    Jizz says:

    Hey, i love the look and feel of your site. Can you please tell me the name of the theme? I really would like to use it on my own blog [url deleted. Deemed unsuitable].

    Thanks man.

      Andy Aitch says:

      Thanks for your compliments Jizz. The 50ish theme is actually unique and was built over many months, so you won’t be able to get a copy I’m afraid. Sorry about that, but good luck in finding something suitable for your project.

    Yankee says:

    Hey man, love the site man. Hope ur gonna add more posts on dating? Don’t getter any easier at my age man. Getting fedup being alone. Think iv lost my touch man.

    AJ says:

    You can always chat with me Jan. We gay men get on better with straight women than we do straight guys – no offence chaps! I’m usually lurking in the forum, but it’s a bit lonely in there sometimes.


      DareMe says:

      Hi AJ. I’m a more mature gay guy and would be happy to chat in the forum. Don’t see any Gay section though. Could be a good idea for the site Mr. Aitch? DM

        Andy Aitch says:

        Hello DareMe. I’m not sure there will a lot of demand for a middle-aged gay forum, but it really doesn’t take much to set one up. I’ll do this for a trial period later in the week and also add another for middle-aged women. If either or do start to get busy, we can look at making them member-only rooms if necessary, but that’s nothing for now 😉


        Andy Aitch (Webmaster)

          Andy Aitch says:

          2 New Special Interest Forums set-up as promised.

          I’ll leave them live for 2 or 3 months to see how they go, but can’t make any promises as to their popularity – Good luck 😉

          The 50ish Forum for Middle-aged Gay Men
          The 50ish Forum for Middle-aged Women

          Andy Aitch (Webmaster)

            ClosetGay says:

            Hey 50ish you’re a superstar 🙂 (I’ve already made a post (the first one ;)) in the new forum. I hopes it takes off. You’re one of the good guys 🙂


    Jan says:

    Ok. Many Thanks. Jan

      Andy Aitch says:

      Hi Jan.

      I just want to say that anyone, of any age and gender, is more than welcome here at, and that includes participating in comments and forum threads. The topics will always be related to men issues though, and more specifically men of middle-age, but that doesn’t mean others have nothing of value to contribute of course.


    Jan says:

    Hello. I was wondering if you might want to add a section to your site for middle-aged ladies? Jan.

      Andy Aitch says:

      Hello Jan. Being a man, I’m not really qualified to run a site about women’s issues. But if there ever comes a time where the demand seems to be there, we could probably look at opening a women’s area in the forums?

      There are many sites for women already, but I’m not sure if there is anything specifically for middle-aged ladies. Maybe the Forbes Top 100 Websites For Women 2012 might give you some pointers?

      Hope that helps.

      Andy Aitch (Webmaster)

    Kiwi Keith says:

    G’day fellow midlifers. Mr 50ish, I just wanted to say hi and give my support for your great project mate. Nice to see things are picking up.

    K keith

      Andy Aitch says:

      Thanks Keith, appreciate it.

    WTF says:

    Hi Andy Aitch. Do you accept guest articles on this site? I can write about travel destinations for the over 50s? I think it would make a nice contribution to your lifestyle section. Pls let me know.

      Andy Aitch says:

      Hello WTF. Yes, I can consider guest articles that are of interest to our readers. Please get in touch using this contact form. Thanks.

      Andy Aitch (Webmaster)

    tornado says:

    Nice site Andy. By the way, I think we might know each other from school days. Please check your email. Tim.

      Andy Aitch says:

      Thanks Tim. Yes, I think we do. I’ve replied to your email.

    sprayME says:

    If anyone has seen the news this past year, I think a site like this is long overdue. Suicides among middle-aged men have risen sharply, so has HIV infections, unemployment, divorces, bankruptcies and on and on. The only criticism is that there should be a message board too. Other than that, keep up the good work.

      MrUglyMug says:

      There is a forum. I just come from there. It is how i found this site. You just have to click the button on the right of the grey bar called 50ish community.

        Andy Aitch says:

        Yes, as MrUglyMug says, we have a forum sprayMe. Please join as it’s a new project and we could use your support sir. Thank you.

        Andy Aitch (Webmaster)

      Eddie Ale says:

      The forum has been down a lot lately. Glad to see it’s back up. Hope it grows into a thriving community.

      – Eddie Ale

    Janet Burton says:

    This is a message for the the comment at the top. You want to consider yourself lucky to have men hitting on your love, because there will come a time when you’ll be ignored by most.

    I’m not sure where that top comment come from. I cannot for the life of me read anything controversail in the site introduction.

    Andy Aitc, as you can see I am a lady visiting a man’s website, but i just wanted to say i think you’ve got a great thing going here. Hope you keep it up.

    Janet Burton

    Disgusted says:

    How dare you categorize men in their forties WHOM are clearly still young, as over 50, OLD!! I am in my thirties and have had enough of young acting 50 year olds going through a midlife crisis, making moves on me and trying to ask me out *some with wives and daugthers* disgusted at these men, I don’t think you can call men in their forties middle age. Men in their fifties YES !!!!

      Andy Aitch says:

      Thanks for your comments Anonymous

      I think it’s a little unfair for you to refer to men over 50 as some kind of sex fiends that stalk around making a nuisance of themselves to younger women.

      There are pests in all age groups for all manner of reasons, but like all annoying characters in society, these people tend to be in a minority and hardly representative of their tribes – for want of a better word.

      Btw, men don’t have to wait until they’re 50 year olds before going through a midlife crisis of sorts. Furthermore, this crisis is as real to men as the menopause is to women. The other things is this; although quite a number of guys go through a midlife crisis or some description, it’s totally wrong to assume they’re having a great time acting as they do. In many cases, they are suffering in their own way, and this transitional anguish can, in some cases, drag on for a decade or more, according to experts.

      Do some men act the prat and make a nuisance of themselves? Sure they do, no question of doubt about that, but others are hurting quietly in the privacy of their own heads.

      Regarding your views on when middle-age starts and ends, you might want to read this post on When does a man's middle-age begin?

      Thanks once again for your comments, all viewpoints are most welcome here at

      Andy Aitch

      Graham says:

      It always makes me giggle when younger mocks older. What they fail to understand is that they’ll be middle-aged themselves one day, and even older if they’re lucky. Then it’ll be their turn to feel the brunt of ageist stereotyping! What’s wrong with a young acting 50 year old anyways? I’d sooner be around people that are childlike and enjoying life rather than those straight faced conservative types who think they’ve got one foot in the grave as soon as they hit 40 years.

      Btw, don’t confuse childlike with childish they’re 2 completely different things, though by you rude comments I think you are perhaps the latter.

      Thanks. Graham

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