Don’t Be Afraid To Live Before You Die!

One of my all-time favourite sayings is that old English proverb: “A man is not old until his dreams become his regrets”. Being middle-aged and older does not mean an able-bodied man is past it! Unless of course he has resigned to the thought that his best days are well and truly behind him; resulting in little enthusiasm to try new things in his remaining years.

A Man's Bucket List

But surely most men have some place they desperately want to visit one day; something they want to achieve, or maybe even some sexual fantasy they’d love to fulfil? It doesn’t matter how exciting or mundane a thing seems to others, so long as the man himself gets what he wants out of whatever it is he longs to do before finally kicking the bucket. Do you have such a list?

The Bucket List!

This list of stimulating things to do before a bloke pegs it is called a ‘Bucket List’. Most men have one, even if it’s only in the privacy of their own heads. Sadly, the vast majority of folks don’t come anywhere near to realising the items on their physical or latent list.

This might be because they left things too late and became old and frail? Or perhaps they turned chicken at the last minute? Most likely though, is that many of the items on a man’s bucket list are unattainable because they cost too much to pursue.

The Best things in Life are Free! Aren’t they?

Well actually, that’s not strictly true, not if most of the items on a man’s bucket list require money, and there’s a very good chance that most of them do. But there are a lot of things a bloke can do that won’t break the bank and still give him the thrills he so yearns.

According to an article by By Martha De Lacey published in the Daily Mail (a UK Newspaper), a high percentage of people claim they don’t live life to the full for 2 main reasons:

  1. They can’t afford to
  2. They don’t have the time

Fulfilment Requires Action, not thought or Excuses!

The article states there are 50 things a person should do if they want to become fulfilled individuals before they pop their socks. By the way, one myth about bucket lists is that they’re something you should work through in your golden years of retirement. This is a stupid idea! If you’ve got a bunch of things you’d love to do between birth and death, then there’s no time like the present, well, for most things anyway. Or as the wise old saying goes;

“Never put off till tomorrow what you can do today” ~ Lord Chesterfield

Alas, most of us tend to interpret the above as:

“Never do today what you can put off till tomorrow”.

Personally, I think the list below is extreme and can’t possibly represent desires of all people. I mean, heck, we’re all so different right? What constitutes fulfilment for one has absolutely no appeal to another. But I’ve published it anyway as a bit of fun, and if nothing else, it might give some readers a few ideas for their own list πŸ˜‰

Life is for Living. So Live it!

Life is for living, so we might as well live it the best we can, in a way which pleases us. Satisfaction really is very personal to the individual man. So, all you middle-aged blokes out there, if you’re feeling that things are a little humdrum right now, why not start to compile your own bucket list and have something to aim for in the days, weeks, months, or years ahead? After all, we’re a long time dead, so best make the most of things Γ’β‚¬β€œ right?

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  1. Stop worrying about money
  2. Stop worrying about what other people think
  3. Take two holidays a year
  4. Enjoy little comforts in life
  5. Experience different cultures
  6. Work to live rather than live to work
  7. Pay off all debts
  8. Be true to yourself
  9. Concentrate on what you have instead of what you don’t have
  10. Use money on experiences rather than saving for a rainy day
  11. Make time for family and friends
  12. Try all types of food
  13. Find true love
  14. Travel to at least 25 different foreign countries
  15. Go outside more
  16. Learn a new language
  17. Be well thought of by family and friends
  18. Help a member of your family out when they really need it
  19. Lose a stone in weight
  20. Treat each day like it’s your last
  21. Visit all of your country’s historical landmarks
  22. Book an impulsive last minute holiday
  23. Volunteer for a good cause
  24. Take up a challenge
  25. Go on safari
  26. Blow a load of money in one shopping trip, just because you can
  27. Learn a new musical instrument
  28. Be married for longer than 20 years
  29. Have enough money left for the grandchildren to enjoy
  30. Start a family
  31. Earn more than your age
  32. Have a pet
  33. Drive a really fast car
  34. Travel alone
  35. Be able to keep the kids on the straight and narrow
  36. Meet strangers
  37. Move away from home to an unfamiliar place
  38. Have a one-night stand
  39. Pass your driving test
  40. Get a degree
  41. Rescue someone so that you’re a hero for a little while
  42. Date someone exciting but completely wrong for you
  43. Get a promotion
  44. Reach the desired career peak by age 40
  45. Have an all-night drinking session
  46. Perform something on stage in front of others
  47. Snog (French kiss), a stranger
  48. Plan a surprise party
  49. Embark on adrenalin packed activities such as skydiving or bungee jumping
  50. Spend time with children even if they aren’t yours

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Food for thought!

So there we have it; bucket list ideas for men. Take what you want from it (if anything), and leave the rest. And remember, whatever your bucket list has on it, you don’t have to wait until you’re a middle-aged man or an old aged pensioner before you start working through it. One of the most important things in this life, IMHO, is to ALWAYS have something to look forward to, no matter ho big or how small it happens to be.

If you really want to find fulfilment and live a little before you die, then perhaps it’s time to write your own bucket list and start pursuing some of those things you’ve always dreamed of doing?

If you have something to add to this list, please leave your comments below πŸ˜‰

About Andy Aitch

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Readers Comments

    Percy Blakeney says:


    You get the c all, Crematorium,another good guy down ,it can get a little depressing however now that I am pushing on a bit I am no w benefitting from the decision not to join the CLUB.,,,, The 40,,40,,40,, scam as some WAG put it. You work forty hours for forty years and you are expected to survive on forty per cent of what you couldnt afford to live on in the first place. Ihave done a lot of globe trotting when I wasyoung ,FIT ,you are also alowed a few lndiscretions because of your youth.Most of the places that i have travelled ,No -GO or war ZONES and it was for the most part SAFE and done on a shoestring.MORAL to this tale,,,Do it NOW!! one unfortunate bragged ,I booked 3 CRUISES ,paid for loadsof other stuff,,,you have guessed already starts with the letter. C,,,,,,,,,M



    Adrian says:

    Took up gliding at 51, realising that I should have been doing it all my life. Solo after 37 flights, now accomplished and qualified. I was inspired to start by a friend of same age with a terminal illness. Lesson: You never know what’s around the corner, but you put something fabulous in front of you.

    William M. says:

    Brilliant article Andy!
    And oh so true.
    At 51, I chucked in my career eighteen months ago, with a vague plan about what to do next (so long as it never involves a ‘boss’ again!) Moved halfway around the world (it didn’t work out perfectly, far from it!) And I’ve had my share of fear for the future in this time… but so far the sky has not fallen it! I am stepping up to pursue a lifelong dream that is not strictly what society would approve of… I have landed a casual gig as a mature actor in adult films with one of EU’s biggest adult brands. And I couldn’t be happier! One suggestion to all you older blokes out there, as you cross something off the list, consider replacing it with another brand new goal/dream, that should give you good reason to go on forever!

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