Why do Men Sleep with Prostitutes?
A question often asked by married women is why do some men feel the need to pay for sex. Furthermore, what kinds of men sleep with prostitutes? And perhaps the most important question of all is what percentage of men sleep with prostitutes, or more specifically, what percentage of married men seeks the services of a harlot in the twenty-first century?
Demographics Play a Role
When asked, very few single men, let alone married ones, will put up their hands and say “It’s me, I sleep with strumpets”. There are, however, a number of anonymous studies done over the years that seem to share one common fact, and that is the problem appears to be a lot more widespread than first thought.
The Johns Chart
Procon.org compiled global studies between 1994 and 2010 and then presented their findings in ‘The Johns Chart’. It shows the percentage of men (by participating country), who had ‘paid for sex’ at least once. View chart or visit Procon.org for the full report.
The Oldest Profession in the World
Women who offer sex for payment is something that has been going on since the dawn of time. Prostitution exists because the demand is there. It has always been this way and it most likely always will be. Even if societies become more moralistic with each passing generation, this base animal instinct in man is often relentless in its pursuit for sexual fulfilment and erotic diversity.
So the main reason why men buy sex is because they’re either unable or unwilling to fight their sexual urges. Such impulses can often switch on by themselves, quite spontaneous and uninvited.
Others may argue that most men probably ‘think’ about having extra marital sex (in the privacy of their own minds), but the majority don’t act out on those thoughts.
“Suppress prostitution, and capricious lusts will overthrow society”. ~ Georges Bataille
Obviously not all men are the same, and every man will have his strengths and weaknesses, irrespective of social standing, background and upbringing. But do such flaws make him a bad man of immoral character, or just someone satiating a strong human desire?
Who are the Men that Sleep with prostitutes?
Men who pay for sex are often portrayed as being middle-aged, successful, professional individuals that work long hours and travel away from home a fair bit. But in reality, studies have revealed that there are no obvious stereotypical types that partake in pay for play.
What research can conclude is that the bulk of promiscuous men are aged between 18 and 70 years or age. And believe it or not, but those of religious convictions, or working in moral occupations, are not spared from the lure of secretive sex with streetwalkers, call-girls, or brothel workers. The powerful and natural sex instinct can, and does, deliver all kinds of men into the arms of sex workers – all kinds!
The majority of men that sleep with prostitutes share the following:
- They’re educated beyond school level
- In regular full time employment.
- Respected members of society
- Come across as decent fellows
- Display good manners and social skills.
- 50%+ are either married or in long tern relationships.
Research published back in 2005 found the amount of men that paid for sex had more than doubled in a 10 year period, a trend that has continued to rise since those findings.
It’s thought that communications technology, to include the internet, has played a large part in the increased promiscuity within civilised society. In other words, mobile phones and the World Wide Web have seen men pursuing sex with strangers, many of whom would never have pursued such activity if it weren’t for the available technology.
It’s Immoral. Isn’t it?
When asked, most married men surveyed thought that having non-committal, anonymous sex with prostitutes is less immoral than having long-term meaningful affairs behind a partner’s back. Single men are split in the morality of sleeping with prostitutes. It has to be noted though that confident, good-looking guys who have no trouble picking up dates, were among those that thought paying for sex was a bad thing.
Being unfaithful is not a nice act no matter how one might justify it, and no one can argue with that. This doesn’t mean it’s right to judge those men who are disloyal though. There could be all manner of reasons why some feel it necessary to satisfy their needs away from home.
The Rise in Male Prostitution
Male prostitution is also on the increase across major towns and cities throughout world, particularly services catering for the older gay or bisexual men. Perhaps the highest demand of all comes from the closet gay man, i.e. men who have strong gay tendencies but chose to live straight lifestyles – for the most part – but that’s something for another article.
Further reading: Why Men Pay for sex (the Research).
By Toby Strowger | 50ish Site Contributor
Toby Strowger is a men’s lifestyle writer for 50ish.org