Male Mid-life Crises to Middle Aged Fulfilment

The Site for Middle-aged Men the World Over

Middle Aged Men Unite – Reject the Crisis!

Hello, my name’s Andy Aitch, the webmaster behind this project. Thanks for visiting us, I hope you enjoy the site. 50ish.org is continually being updated with topical content by middle-aged men, for men of middle age everywhere.

If you’re a man somewhere between mid 40s and 65 years of age, then congratulations, you’re in the right place.

Perhaps you, like so many other men in mid-life transition, are worried about premature ageing and health issues? What about the fear of financial uncertainty, failed relationships or losing your identity?

Or maybe you’re just anticipating a humdrum lifestyle with more monotony than variety to look forward to in the years ahead?

If you can relate to any of the above, then you’re definitely in the right place. Welcome to 50ish.org, a project inspired by the over 50s, for men of middle age everywhere.

Not Every Middle-aged Man goes through a Mid-life Crises

Not many men in their 40s and 50s would confess to symptoms of a male midlife-crisis. Even less likely is a ‘manly man’ admitting to the world that he’s suffering from the so called male menopause (AKA the andropause), but it’s occurring nonetheless – apparently!

It’s fair to say that not every middle aged man between ages of 45 to 65 goes through a ‘silly period’ during this stage of his natural development. But every man, no matter who he is, or where he comes from, WILL face some unfamiliar challenges during his middle years.

The 4 Areas of Concern for Middle Aged Guys

1. Health: Middle-age health concerns become quite a worry for a lot of men as they grow older, particularly the thought of cancer, heart attack and stroke. And the suggestion that men over the age of 50 should be getting that ‘finger up the bum’ prostate exam once a year is enough to have any mid-lifer running for them there hills.

Another health concern for many of the over 40s is middle-age spread. With it comes a range of potential health complications that occur directly from being an overweight man in midlife transition.

‘He who has health, has hope; and he who has hope,
has everything’. ~ Thomas Carlyle

2. Finance: The fear of financial insecurity can trigger a lot of anxiety within middle age, especially long term concerns. There’s also that dark cloud of job uncertainty forever hovering above the heads of maturing men. Not forgetting too that constant gripe on the rising cost of living as today’s middle-aged man struggles to save for his future.

‘Money is not the only answer, but it makes
a difference’. ~ Barack Obama

3. Relationships: The threat of erectile dysfunction (ED) is a concern for many a man in the throes of midlife. The flip side of this is when middle aged men are still full of testosterone and sexual desire but no longer have the opportunity to satisfy these needs (see below).

Commitment, generosity, and a listening ear are fundamental to the health of any mid-life relationship. Nevertheless, these things alone are not always enough. If sexual fulfilment is wanted by one but rejected by the other, this can, and does, place immense stress on relationships, particularly those in the early stages of middle age.

‘People change and forget to tell each other’. ~ Lillian Hellman

4. Lifestyle: According to psychotherapists, a man undergoing the transition into middle age tends to spend a lot of time reflecting on his past. As he reaches life’s halfway stage, this self-probing often begins by looking at his lifestyle choices. Sadly, for quite a few of the over 50s, this experience is not always a positive one.

‘Look at life through the windshield, not the
rear-view mirror’. ~ Byrd Baggett

When a middle aged man starts to believe he’s accomplished very little, or not as much as he could have done, both within his personal and professional life, there then comes a real potential for depression.

Depression, when allowed fester, is debilitating, constraining, and obstructs any hope of happiness for men during their mid-life years.

‘A man is not old until his dreams become regrets’. ~ English Proverb

The above proverb tells us that any maturing male still has unlimited opportunities before him providing he’s physically, mentally, able, and willing to take up new challenges.

Midlife Changes in Attitude and Outlook are Normal

As we men grow older, changes are both natural and inevitable. The transformations that occur at midlife don’t have to be negative nor contain fear, anxiety, and pessimistic uncertainty about the future.

Male midlife transitions do not have to result in male midlife crises. By developing, or maintaining a positive mind-set, there will be great times ahead for any man who strives for them.

If you’ve read down this far, you’ll now realise that there is more to getting older than just that of a physical nature. Psychological and spiritual changes take place too as men evolve from their relative youthfulness into a period of mid-life adjustment.

It’s the sole purpose of this website to help make these middle aged years a time of fulfilment, self discovery, and camaraderie as we join together and work towards a period in our lives that will be constructive, happy, and free, hopefully more often than not!

It’s only by accepting those things in life that we cannot change, like growing older, can we then focus on those things we can do something about, such as living life to the full.

Research has shown that physical and mental deterioration within middle-aged men can be slowed down considerably simply by embracing a healthier, happier lifestyle.

Come join us, welcome your middle age and march forward with your fellow mid-lifers. Let us strive to get the best out of living life to the max as contented and confident middle-aged men in the 21st century.

Drop by and register in the all new 50ish forum, the community for middle-aged men everywhere.

About Andy Aitch

50 year old Andy Aitch is founder and webmaster of 50ish.org A project aimed at helping fellow mid-lifers get the most out living life as middle-aged men in the twenty first century.
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As if it wasn’t bad enough to break out in zits as a teenager, it’s just not fair for a man in his prime to develop adult acne. Yet millions of middle-aged men do develop nasty spots around the same time as their children are outgrowing the condition.

If the occurrence comes unexpectedly, and you have no previous history of acne (especially in your adult years), then the main culprit is most likely medication of some kind.

What Every Man Over 45 Needs to Know

Next to skin cancer, prostate cancer is the most common cancer in men of varying ages. Although only about 2% of men in South East Asia develop it, the disease strikes up to 1 in 6 men of European ancestry and up to 1 in 5 men of African ancestry.

The good news is that those men who get diagnosed and treated early have a good chance of not dying from this disease.

Sceptics think it’s a Midlife Crisis in Disguise!

Around the age of 50, it’s thought that most men go through a time of life called andropause. Much like a woman’s menopause in which a woman’s body stops making as much estrogen, men go through a so called ‘man-opause’ in which their bodies stop making as much testosterone.

This is the Male Hormone that makes a Man a Man

Unfortunately, the older we get, the less of it our bodies make and the more of it our fat cells turn into estrogen. Testosterone injections and testosterone patches promise to bring a man back into his prime, but sometimes there are other ways to deal with low testosterone.